Have you had "The Talk"

I know I didn't. I'm 20 years old, and I had never heard the bird and the bees... Well I surely heard it today. I had began to get upset because my parents were going through my credit card statements and my mail. I didn't say anything about it, and just let it go. The other day my birth control was missing.

Coincidently the next day on the way home from church my mom told me, "Krissie we haven't had our lately "Talk". I told her to be real we had never had "a talk" before. She asked me was I sexually active. I told her not at the current moment, but I was in the past which is why I was on birth control. I also told her I know that she went in my purse and took my pills out. I was hurt, because if they wanted to know something they could simply ask. I am grown, I can make my own decisions, and I have no problem in telling them that I was sexually active.

Oh why did I say that? Tell me why! Now I am the worst daughter to mankind. I'm a ho. I sleep around with every guy I know prolly. I prolly run a brothel on campus. When I get AIDS she ain't gonna take care of me. I'm being detrimental to my health. That's why I never come home, I'm always having sex. I think it upset me so bad, because I made the personal decision about 3 months ago to not have sex anymore. I've said this many times before--but this time I was serious about it. I cut out all my "bust it babies" and "spiritual together but not really guys." To sit there and be open with my parents like an adult and be called all this ish pissed me the hell off. I started cursing at both of them. (Lord please forgive me.) I told them I knew the pros and cons of sex and I was old enough to make my own decisions. They are not talking to a pre teen.

I'll be 21 on next Wednesday, they missed the time to tell em all un-factual information and scare me to death about sex. I know the facts. I know what I'm doing. My dad asked me what did they do to deserve this. He said it seems like I'm in school and I'm letting everyone get ahead of me in the race. I'm letting them catch up. He said my parents give me all unconditional love and support and this is how I pay them in return.

My blood started boiling. I asked him when was he involved in my life? He didn't show up at my middle school graduation, and the nucca was late to my high school graduation. THEN he said the same thing about letting everyone catch up to me in "the race" and how he was disappointed even though I graduated number 20 in my class. He replied, "ALL THE RECITALS I WENT TO?" I said which one then? He said the one I took you to on XYZ campus. I said. Oh yeah I remember it now. It was the first time I had ever won a piano recital. I practiced from May to September to learn that 12 page sonatina. I begged you to come in, I didn't want you to take me anyway but ma had to work. You told me you were to busy, you dropped me off in the garage and picked me up 3 hours later. You didn't know wtf was going on when everyone congratulated you on your daughter. I had just won my very first recital. He didn't say anything.

They continued in saying I was killing myself. I told them I wasn't having sex right now, they said well I'm prolly lying if I'm on birth control. I'm gonna get cancer by being on those pills. Blah and Blah. I asked them how I felt like I couldn't talk to them about anything. I got a yeast infection one time (before I was having sex) and I knew my mother was going to be so judgmental I didn't even ask her to take me to the clinic. Before i had the chance to finish she piped in "You were prolly having sex then! Who were u having sex with? Prolly had an std". I said see...that's why I never come to you. You're quick to make assumptions and never hear my side of the story. I'm an adult. I'm going to make choices you don't like. I understand as my parents you're gonna tell me what is right, but it is up to me whether I follow your advice or not.

My daddy asked me "Well where te hell are these guys you sleeping with?" They aren’t with you no more so what good did sex have? What was the purpose. I tried to answer, got cut off, and just snapped. I'm sure you aren’t' still with every woman you've ever had sex with. I mean my mother is your 3rd wife. He said that's different he's a man.......

They raised a fine daughter, even if they don't think so. yeah I'm having sex. Their "baby" is having sex. But I'm no baby no more. I'm not sleeping with Tom Dick and Bill. I'm not sleeping/creepin at all. But if I do, i wanna be protected. I got a lot of goals to accomplish before I bring a child/disease into this world. I just wish I could get them to listen to me more. Please when you give your children "the talk" be calm, and supportive. State your point why and the consequences, but don’t' doom your child to failure.

Tonight was a horrible one to say the least. I talked to my brother [he finally answered the phone]. He told me I need to learn to have tact. Tact in what I say because my parents will always be there, and I've been their child for 20 years old. I know how they will react to certain things, and nothing is going to change. Despite that, you have to be respectful. It's in the Bible. It takes a strong person to not blow up at the mouth, but it takes a mature person to be able to do that. If I want to be treated with maturity and for them to realize I am not a child, I have to act the part and know just because I have a disagreement with them it is not the end of the world. And the end of the world it is not....my world is just beginning. Sorry for the typos. I'm still a little upset. Goodnight!!